Monday, March 21, 2016

I'm single, what's up?


Hi.

As I sit here trying to decide how I start blogging (lol) again (about what I actually want to blog about), I'm watching the new Chelsea Handler show "Chelsea Does" and this particular episode is about marriage.
She's so crazy, right?...no. no. no, she's actually SO normal.

She's not getting married, she's exploring the idea of marriage.  Watching her speed date is like reading my Bumble conversations.  A.k.a. agonizing and hilarious.  

So basically I want to explore conversations about dating "in this day and age"
(as well as post things about fashion and art, obvi).
I used to write an advice column some years ago and loved doing so.  And, I guess, well, I would like to start doing that again.  I found that the more I told my own personal stories, the more girls and women would write me with their questions, concerns, and advice seeking.

So here we go...Imma get deep...

Let me start off with saying, at this point, I've been through, not everything, but most everything in a relationship.  And if it hasn't happened to me, it's happened to someone I know and love.  I'm very open...not ashamed of much.  So if any of you have any questions about situations you're in, please please please write me!
slightlydisheveledbaby@gmail.com

Vulnerability : easily hurt or harmed physically, mentally, or emotionally; open to attack, harm, or damage.
Sounds horrible...like, who would want to be THIS???
Searched further and found this definition...
Vulnerability : the state of being open to injury, or appearing as if you are.  It might be emotional, like admitting that you're in love with someone who might only be a friend, or it can be literal, like the vulnerability of a soccer goal thats unprotected by and defensive players.
OKAAAAAY.  I'll think about that one.  Not so sure I wanna leave my goal unprotected :/

Has anyone ever listened to Brene Brown's TED Talks about vulnerability?  She is amazing and makes a lot of solid sense.  I highly recommend it.  I listened to her talks right after a terribly sad breakup, which caused me to "feel" everything...constant vulnerability.  It was hard.  Still is.  And it's even harder when everyone sees me as very strong, so they never stop to ask me "whats up with you, you good?".
Cause I'm always good, right?  I mean, yeah thats possible *sarcasm*.

Anyhow, all that shit "they" say about getting older is def true.  You find out who your real friends are and you're more comfortable in your own skin.  That stuff is great, but can feel sad at times as well.  You care less about surface things, people's opinions, and less FOMO.  But that doesn't necessarily mean the growing pains that go with it don't exist solely because you're older now...they can exist.

OKAY GUYS, with all that said, lets talk about dating in 2016...or how about as a 30 something year old?

Scary. Shit.

People hardly even believe half the stories I have...because they are INSANE.
Boys, men, whatever you wanna call them - they are disgusting these days.  Not all, but a lot of them.  I have a strong female personality and these freaks still come at me with the craziest things.  I feel like my hand is permanently in the air like, "naw, naw".

So, I'll start sharing, but please write in as well!

slightlydisheveledbaby@gmail.com

(read that like there's a comma in there...mmmm-hhmmm)



<3 Bre
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